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How Alcoholism Impacts the Family
If you've been in a long-term relationship with an alcoholic, codependency is almost inevitable, which essentially means that as a codependent you suffer from relationship addiction. The relationship is destructive because it will inevitably be one sided and emotionally unfulfilling - but you won't see or acknowledge what's going on and so your needs will be forgotten about - and should you have kids they will also be greatly affected because you will have difficulty doing what is best for them because you're so caught up in the codependent relationship. The effects of alcoholism on a relationship or marriage are huge, in that it naturally puts huge strain on the relationship. So it may reach a stage whether things have just gotten too bad for you (and your kids) that staying in the relationship is just not possible. Considering the whole alcoholism and divorce conundrum or looking at separation may then become a very real issue for you. I grew up in a family where alcoholism caused massive pain and heartbreak so I know how difficult it is to handle and to know what to do. It's different for every family, but asking yourself things like - how is this effecting the kids, is there abuse involved and how bad is the alcoholism/is it getting worse? - will help you get clearer on the kind of action you need to take. Eventually though the pleading and empty threats will need to stop - because you will need to take a real stand and say to yourself, 'this is it', if anything is going to change. That's when doing intervention for alcoholism can be such a powerful thing. Doing an intervention well should get your spouse or partner into treatment - and so provides a real chance that it could be the start of change. At the end of the day though, there just isn't a quick fix solution. It will definitely help speaking to, and meeting others, who have gone through what you have. Al-Anon, is a great support network and excellent place for you to start. The worst thing in the world you can do, is try to keep things covered up and be ashamed of what is happening - so don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help because there is lots of it out there. -->
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Article by: C-P |
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Word Count: 416 About the AuthorThere is lots more advice on C-P's website to help you. Visit Alcoholism and the Family to find out more about the alcoholism-family dynamic. And to discover more about what Codependency entails, simply click on the link.
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